“I really want to schedule a family session, But I need to loose weight first.”
I have run out of responses to this. And it has quickly become one of my least favorite things to talk to clients about. I get it. You figure that if you are going to go to all the trouble of coordinating outfits, pep talking dad through it, planning, scheduling, and paying a good chunk of money for this experience then by golly— you are going to look your best!
But what if your best is just you.
Sincerely and authentically you.
Right now. In whatever season of life you are in. With or without those extra pounds from baby weight or post holiday weight or just what I call “funk weight”.
I’m in a funk, and I’ve gained a little extra squish.
Find your best current self, hold your family near, and say cheese.
It is in this liberating ownership of yourself that we find the real reason we are taking pictures at all. To capture the relationships during this once in a lifetime season you are in. Your life is ever changing at a rapid pace. Photography is such a gift for us. I would die if I couldn’t look back and reminisce when my babies were so tiny.
Think about maternity sessions. Women at possibly their heaviest weight in their life so far, and we are embracing pictures of them. It’s sincere and authentic. It’s GIANT proof of the relationship between mommy and her baby as they are one. We love those BIG ROUND GIANT bellies – you know, the ones that hold another life inside there. Amazing.
And so off with those “I’m too fat for pictures right now” statements. You wait and wait and wait and pretty soon it’s been years since you had a family photo. I’m just saying that if you were to die tomorrow – I don’t hear your kiddos saying “I can’t believe mom didn’t wait to have these taken till she shed that last 20 pounds” . They would be so thankful that they had them at all! We should be more proud of each season of life, Moms. And I am not going to leave out Dads because I have heard this same statement from them too.
I have come far from my self destructive eating disorder in middle school to understanding that people are so beautiful. Just as they are. And the MOST beautiful people are the ones who love themselves for where they are right now.
This weekend our church had a special multi-congregational conference. The talks were all on the importance of families. The last talk was about family history and photography. Clearly, I perked up. Our church is very advocating when it comes to preserving our family history and sharing our ancestors stories. He challenged us to share more with our children. To post our family photos to our church database- Family Search. Because I believe in God, and a pre-existence and an afterlife it made me really think. You know how you look back at family trips you have taken and the pictures are so deeply meaningful? I am convinced that we will be able to look back at our photos after we die and are resurrected. We will cherish those moments during our earthly trip. We will want to look over and reminisce of this small sliver of time where we were sent here to be tested, gain a body, a family and have JOY.
Men are that they may have joy. 2 Nephi 2:25
I’m pretty sure people still think I photoshopped this. But alas. Nope. Best basketball belly ever.
Days before delivering my 4th.
till next Tues,